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Dilemma
Dear
Auntiji
I
have come to an age where I am starting
to get visits from prospective husbands.
My problem is the tea making process.
The idea of all these strangers coming
over and giving me marks out of ten for
my tea making skills is enough to make
me drop my mum's best teapot.
I
am so confused. If I make Indian tea in
a saucepan, my future in-laws may think
I have just come off a PIA flight but
if I make English tea, they will think
I am too Westernised.
Do
I make the tea in the kitchen or make
it in front of them? And more importantly,
how do I pour the tea without any potential
father in laws getting an eyeful of my
ahem, assets?
What
kind of a system is this where whether
you end up left on the shelf depends on
a packet of PG Tips. Please help.
Sara,
Bradford
Solution
Hmm-
this is a tricky one, sweety firstly I
suggest- forget the tea, modern times
now-give juice drinks with very spicy
pakorahs, they will not want any tea then-
they'll just be gagging for water! If
worse comes to the worse, boil the milk-
so that if they want "desi"
tea then u can put 80% milk and 20% tea
water..and if they want English tea then
they are still sorted.
As
a potential mother-in-law I do give the
girl a rating on her tea making skills-so
I suggest you come to Auntijis
Rishta Finishing school - i
will teach you the art of how to behave
for a potential rishta scoring of 10/10....
you'll have every Auntiji begging you
to marry her son!!!
Readers-
e-mails us what you think Sara should
do!!!!
Dilemma
Dear
Auntiji
This
e-mail might sound daft to you but I have
tried for months to find out how to get
to know an Asian woman in England. The
internet sends me to sites where its too
expensive and you have to travel round
the world to meet any one. I'm a Englishman
of 51, an ex-serviceman of 22 years and
live in the south of England and I find
Indian Pakistani and Chinese Woman a cut
above English woman? You are my last hope.
I do hope you can help me as I know cultures
are very different, but I am willing to
learn and to give 100% in a relationship,
if I was acceptable . Please help to find
me a soul mate! Thank You
MR
G CHICK, Bournemouth
Solution
Dear
Mr Chick
I
suggest a couple of things, firstly register
(for FREE) with our matrimonial
section.
Secondly,
check our events page regularly to see
what events are happening, these would
have a high percentage of people of ethnic
origin and where you would be able to
meet the kind of people you are looking
to meet.
Thirdly,
befriend a nice Asian Auntijee local in
your area, and ask her if she can introduce
you to any nice girls. You can try getting
some information from local corner shops
etc. I have personally looked at my register
of girls, and cannot find anyone too near
you, but there is bound to be a local
Auntiji that can help you.
Fourthly,
if all else fails, register with some
Asian Matrimonial Bureaus, although expensive,
can be of assistance.
Fifthly,
you could start attending the local mosque,
as it is currently Ramadan you can go
and get some free food at Fast opening
times (around 4.45pm in London), as well
as network with lots of people. You can
ask people about the religion, and start
participating in the organising of events
etc. If you do wish to take the religious
path then the Imam (the Muslim priest)
will no doubt help you find a Muslim wife,
if you do become a Muslim.
Next
week on our lifestyle section we will
be doing a feature on six ways Asian people
get married, if not all of them apply,
some of them may be able to assist you.
Readers-
e-mails us what you think Mr G Chick should
do!!!!
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Dilemma
Is
there anything we can do to get rid of
dark circles under the eyes? I'm not sure
what causes them so I live with them.
As I get older, I notice them more and
more. I wear very little make-up so I'm
not really looking for a "cover-up"
solution -- I'm looking to get rid of
them from the inside out.
Treatment
Under
eye circles are often due to excess melanin;
they get worse as we age. Vitamin K has
long been successfully used to treat bruising
and decrease dark circles. Add it to your
daily diet (or consider a vitamin K supplement)
and break open a capsule of vitamin K
with a safety pin, and pat it gently under
the eye at night. While they circles fade,
be sure to drink lots of water. You can
also mix a little yellow eye shadow with
moisturizer to lighten them. Best of luck!
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